When you are mourning a loved one, a lost relationship, or change in circumstances, one of the most helpful things you can do is mindless activities to help you cope with grief.
Have you ever felt like you want to do nothing and something simultaneously? That’s how I felt after my son died. I couldn’t stand silence. I wanted distractions, but my attention span was completely non-existent. I couldn’t read, have an engaging conversation, watch a new TV show, listen to a podcast, or do anything that required any brain power. Every time I would attempt to stay busy, I would end up more frustrated and sad because NOTHING was helping. Sitting in my thoughts just led to a killer headache from crying. Pushing myself to do something “normal” left me overstimulated and overwhelmed.
Through trial and lots of error, I eventually found activities that were the perfect balance of stimulation for me. As my grief has progressed those activities have changed and evolved based on how I’m feeling. When I’m feeling down or need to just escape reality for a little bit, these are my favorite mindless activities.
Coloring
Coloring is a simple and easy way to engage in a creative activity without needing to have any artistic skills. It helps to calm the mind and reduce stress, providing a temporary escape from the pain of grief
Here is the unique, enchanted coloring book that I’ve fallen in love with: https://amzn.to/41uZ5uO
Knitting or crocheting
Knitting or crocheting is a repetitive and meditative activity that can help calm the mind and reduce anxiety. It can also provide a sense of accomplishment and purpose, as you create something new and useful.
I’ve really enjoyed crocheting a blanket the last few months. There are so many YouTube videos and Pinterest resources available to teach you if you would like to learn!
Watching comfort movies or TV shows
We all have those shows or movies we can mindlessly watch over and over. Watching a beloved movie or TV show can help to distract you from the pain of grief and provide some much-needed levity.
You can’t go wrong with a classic Disney movie or The Office 🙂
Listening to music
Listening to music is a great way to connect with your emotions and process your grief. It can also help to distract you from negative thoughts and feelings and provide a sense of comfort and peace.
Making a playlist about your grief can be really helpful if you need a distraction or a good cry. Check out this post for my top songs for grieving my son.
Cooking or baking
Cooking or baking is a therapeutic activity that can provide a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. It can also be a great way to channel your emotions and create something nourishing and delicious.
I got into sourdough bread soon after my son died and it was so good for so many reasons. Buy a bread kit (like this), do some research, and start creating scrumptiously nutritious treats by mastering break making, if you’d like!
Gardening
Gardening is a relaxing and meditative activity that can help you connect with nature and find some peace and tranquility. It can also provide a sense of purpose and accomplishment as you watch your plants grow and thrive.
Going for a walk
Going for a walk is a simple and effective way to clear your mind and get some exercise. It can also help to reduce stress and anxiety and provide a much-needed change of scenery.
Even if the weather isn’t perfect or I’m feeling down, I always feel better after a walk in fresh air.
Cleaning or organizing
Cleaning or organizing your home can be a helpful way to channel your energy and focus on something productive. It can also provide a sense of control and order in a time of chaos and uncertainty.
I rarely had the motivation to clean in those early days, but I jump on the initiative when I have it.
Playing simple games
Playing simple games like solitaire, Sudoku, or crossword puzzles can be a great way to engage your mind without requiring too much effort or energy. It can also be a helpful way to distract yourself from negative thoughts and feelings.
My husband and I took up playing backgammon a few months post-loss and it has been great for our grief (maybe not so great for our marriage — we’re too competitive :))
Taking a nap
Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself when grieving is to rest and recharge. Taking a nap can help you feel more refreshed and energized, allowing you to better cope with the pain and stress of grief.
In conclusion, engaging in mindless activities can be a helpful coping mechanism for dealing with grief. Whatever activities feel right for you in this stage of grief, finding ways to distract yourself and focus on something positive and uplifting can provide some much-needed relief and comfort during a difficult time. Remember to be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate the process of grief, and don’t be afraid to seek support and help when needed.
Thanks for reading!
